Is the hoe the new housewife?
August 14, 2008 · Print This Article
Is the hoe the new housewife? Yes, and No, and No, and Yes. lol. It depends on what pair of eyes you’re looking at this question through. Asking this question brings about many more questions, which create too many variables to come up with a definite answer. But what we can do is discuss the matter and see if there is some medium we can reach.
Some women, when asked this question, replied with a question in return. And that question was “Is the hoe the husband?” or rather “Has the husband always been the hoe?” And in keeping with “no double standards” i guess both angles must be presented. BUT, i wont, lol….
We’ve all heard the term “You cant turn a hoe into a housewife,” right? So is that still true? Mr. LouAlcindor aka CB says that “Hoes have turned into the new housewife because we got a new hoe today, they have disguised themselves and have hidden their sides.” Me, personally, i believe that its 50/50. 50% disguise themselves, while the rest are quite open about their hoedom. Some guys will overlook it, others will try and transform and reform the hoe, which is what i believe cant be done. You either deal or don’t deal, you never try and re-deal. THEflyGIRL gave her opinion on the matter and said “I think a hoe is a hoe regardless of her history. And now-a days a hoe will tell they’re a hoe. It’s the Samantha effect. If a man is looking to be kept, then he obviously wants more, some sort of commitment and perhaps a hoe ain’t for him.” ODARA112 summed up the matter by adding “@TCJFResh hoe’s provide temporary solutions…” Maybe, Maybe not.
When we bring “hoe” into the discussion it makes the topic more of sexual topic. Which leads me to make the point that sex, as important as it may be in a relationship should never be the foundation of such relationship, unless, the relationship is purely sexual, otherwise you are building a relationship on feelings of lust rather than love. T. Hobbs wrote a blog on this very subject, women who think their “Good Good” is gonna keep a man. It Wont! To understand the dynamics of why, check her blog out How to be a good, good woman in 2008: Lessons from Ashanti and Souljah Boy, with input from Destiny’s Child.
Lets assume that a hoe is experienced. (Where would we ever get that assumption from? lol) Which brings us to the meat of the discussion. Men used to want a virgin (i never could see myself with one). Clean, untouched, pure. But then she aint goin know no kind of tricks. What you gain in ego, you lose in technique. lol. The bragging rights you get, knowing your wife has only been with you, come with the sacrifice of experience. When asked, Ms. Karrine Steffans twittered some great insight on the matter “KarrineSteffans @TCJFResh There’s nothing worse than being stuck with a woman who won’t let her husband do whatever with her.& I do mean WHATEVER!” She also said “…& most men would love their wife 2 be a hoe. Problem is, a woman gets that way by experience. He’s gotta be strong enuff 4 that.“
I can admit, i have had issues with exactly what Ms. Steffans is talking about. When a relationship is purely sexual, or mostly sexual, a woman’s past means little to nothing to me, experience means EVERYTHING, and i do mean EVERYTHING. But, when, relationship sets in, all those kinky things, that she probably learned from being somebody’s “hoe,” only made me wonder about a past that i should care less about. Or should i? Again, here comes the other questions. Should a woman’s past (or man for that matter) matter? How many sex partners? Where you looking for love in all the wrong places? Or just an outright hoe? What were your motives for hoeing? Does someones past determine their future? Does it affect their future with you? There’s a good chance that even if it does matter to you, and you decide to ask, the number she gives you probably wont be as accurate as you would like it to be. There are a few documented reasons as to why she doesnt count some encounters. Xilla shared that one here “She Probably Doesn’t Count You.”
Me and my boys, have since come to the conclusion that everyone (male or female) has been someone’s hoe at some point, unless they are either virgins or just prudes. And at this point in my life i am fine with that…. As long as the love is real of course. Lets just say, that was practice and now its game time. lol.
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Ive been known to say…a hoe can only be a hoe if she tells everyone her business. I personally DO NOT believe a woman would really refer to herself as a hoe…and the fact is…if you were to say to most women..”you slept with these many men..so you are a hoe…” Im more than willing to bet that she will flip it back to how many women a man has to sleep with for him to be considered a hoe.
The reality of it all..is ONE partner is too much for the next man. It doesnt matter how many men a woman has been with..men just dont like to idea of knowing that their woman was with other men whether it was 1 or 100.
Thats why when/if a man asks me my #..I never tell. Firstly, it isnt his business. Secondly, the past is the past. What I did before you…shouldnt have anything to do with what Im going to do with you or after you..
Not only that, but men…How are you going to expect your lady to be good in bed and not ever have really done anything?
So to answer. No I dont think the hoe is now the new housewife. Men if you are so worried about your lady being a hoe in the past…I suggest you find yourself a virgin… but get ready to do some teaching…
Like for example, me…How am I gonna expect a man to be good at sex…but think that he has never been with other chicks??
lol That crazy talk.
I just think people should stop being so concerned with their mates past…If they are your mate now…and they make you happy…and they are 100% healthy.. Enjoy what it is, for what it is…
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To answer your question … I would say a good mix is the best case scenario … not a full time hoe but not a total virgin/prude either … like the #4 scoring option on a basketball team. although you could teach them if they are on the bench … as long as they are open to learning!
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N.S. (also called “No Sense” or “N!gg@ syndrome”) – is a condition that depletes the sense of the person affected.
And you my friend have no sense… no sense what-so-ever!
LMAO hahahahahaha….
time traveling hoes…. ::LMAO::
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And in regards to karrine’s comments, being a prude doesn’t make you a nonhoe. You can be multi-sleeping with dudes on a daily and keeping it in missionary with your legs down…
But I agree that everybody has hoe tendencies, myself included. I remember when I first started dating; I would make men wait 3 months before having sex. Yeah, that got real old fast. I mean, after one relationship that included regular scheduled sex fizzled, I would have to first find another to date, then make him wait 3 months. Yeah right. That got old fast.
You, just gotta keep your ish in order, and don’t be sleeping with dudes back to back to back. That’s how you end up on Maury…
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^^ I agree with this to an extent and with agreeing with this I dont necessarily agree popping off with her ex and his boys. I hear what CB is saying that a hoe may not always be good in bed. But the fact is if you have a girl and she seems like a “good girl”..and she throws it down in the bedroom. Chances are she did the same things to her man BEFORE you.. So with that thinking the hoe BEEN the housewife. You know that “trash is someone elses treasure” saying…well it applies here.
I just think now alot of women have that “if he can do it, I can do it too or EVEN BETTER” attitude and aren’t afraid to say it.
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Now Just because one my choose to go against the grain and say you know what I don’t think sex should be used as the new cardio workout, thus doing it with whomever, but rather saving it for someone who is worthy of getting between the sheets and sharing fluids with. Does not make that person a prude, why must one be a prude because they choose to restore value in something that has been cheapened and overused. Why is it prudish to try and know indept the person you are going to be sharing fluids/ possibly DNA or if you haven’t done the research diseases with?
Experience can teach many lessons but no one touched on the emotional nor mental state of those lessons you kept it purely physical. My biggest question is always what made you think that hopping on a 100 dicks was okay? Or what made you think that sticking your dick in a 100 women was okay? There are conversations that are not being had, realistically you can learn and pick up techniques, get suggestions try new things etc, but hoish tendencies they don’t go away they are part of the psyche and just because you wived that hoe doesn’t mean she is really a wife. You can dress anything up to make it pretty even shit but it still stinks and is hella nasty!
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This is deep…here’s my view on this…
Ok to answer your question about if a woman/man’s past should matter…I say NO. as long as your partners past doesn’t jeopardize your well being then it should NOT matter. I look @ it like this…I’m with a guy for who he IS not who he WAS…and knowing things like how many sexual partners he’s had prior to me just opens doors for concern & adds stress on the relationship.
I know initially I stated that hoe’s provide temporary solutions but I guess it depends on one’s definition of a HOE…
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We settle for less at times, both men and women, but we have all made mistakes and bad decisions, everyone deserves a second chance at life and love.
But all too much women are bound to their mistakes and are not allowed to have changed and learned the error of their ways.
We should just practice love, and love one another rather than judge.
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